Dating a manic depressive person

Sadly, too few people yet realize bipolar cheating is one of the most typical bipolar symptoms of all.

My own bipolar infidelity destroyed my relationship, my finances, my self-respect, my happiness, my peace of mind, and my entire sense of self, so I hope there will be readers who can benefit from my mistakes.

But dating can be a challenge when you suffer from depression.

“Sometimes if you don’t feel like smiling but are in a situation where you’re expected to be happy, that can make you feel even worse,” says Helen Friedman, Ph D, a clinical psychologist in private practice in St. That said, meeting a new person can also be a source of joy.

They feel very good about themselves and engage in pleasurable behavior, like spending money or having sex.

They believe they are extremely creative and intelligent and can constantly create with no need for sleep. For some though, and sometimes within the same manic episode, a person feels extremely irritable with all those around them.

This is a page I have wanted to write for a long time because it is SUCH an important topic, and because it is the issue I get the most questions and requests about.

Someone in a manic episode may be particularly angry if their goal-directed behavior is interrupted.

One day, he is caring and loving and wonderful, and the next he is hateful and raging and mean. You are afraid to talk, or when you do talk you feel like you are never heard, your words are taken out of context, misunderstood, or blatantly ignored. In the beginning of a relationship they might seem like everything you ever wanted….usually this is because they are trying to act like everything you ever wanted. You have no support group and therefore your partner gains more power. He or she might be mean to people they think are “below them” or people who are defenseless, like babies or children.

Like flipping a switch, he can change drastically from one extreme to the next. He or she acts one way when they are around you, but completely different around your parents, and completely different around their friends. Slowly, you lose your friends until you feel like your partner is the only person you have left. Your partner cycles from mean and vicious to sweet and loving, then back again. He might set traps for squirrels or rabbits and then torture them.

To do this, be sure to engage in positive self-talk, Friedman says.

And if you are on medication, take it religiously; be consistent with therapy; surround yourself with a support system of friends and family; and be around upbeat, positive people.“Don’t push yourself to date if the timing doesn’t feel right,” she says. You might need to lick your own wounds first.”You don’t owe it to the person to discuss your depression on a first date, Friedman says.